Tape deck? They make bluetooth cassette adaptors. I paired that with one of these controllers

You can use a universal remote control like this one , pairing it to your phone and using it to control the media. As far as i know, there isnt a control that can pair to earbuds directly

It comes in tomorrow, I’ll post pics on Monday.

I got one of these: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07JQ8Q6X6/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_RKCCJR7FMGPE1BSHCWCJ?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1

Maybe something like this?