Yessss, I have been told that I'm too sincere at times, often at work, but also by parents that take that sincerity as a threat at times. Coincidentaly, I'm a psychologist but not related to this clinical and interpersonal stuff and was doing some semi-formal research on expertise development and ability when I came across this psychologist in the UK and coincidentaly, I think she is answering some of the most recent questions I've had.

I'm a work psychologist and haveing had some problems with the family recently on reflection I also notice the work thing. Hgh-conflict people do not like me aty all. In the book I'm reading she suggests two profiles of "gifted" children that may encounter problems. The forst is the naive child (my hand is raised). I am not oppositional at all and not terribly rebellious but I think out of naivety I am clueless to some of the nuances of others ego needs and my normal behavior needles them. I'm not even aware. I don't ask for trouble but I put certain inauthentic people off.

The second profile is the arrogant emperor as in the emperor has no clothes. This child is a developing narcissist. Unfortunately, I identified some of that profiles negative behaviors that do tend to come up at times.

The chapter is on social ineptitude and interpersonal relationships. The thing that really caught my attention was the naive child who doesn't save another person's face, therefore, triggering naricissitic anger out of unawareness and no intentional oppositional or rebellious behavior. I'm just dropping two naive child characteristics that seem relevant:

- Experiences of misunderstandings, confusions, friction, and unintended offences (Falck 2013).

- Not complying with social etiquette (Grobman 2006; Corten et al. 2006) because of not being aware of it. Not very diplomatic or tactful, not “saving another person’s face” (Corten et al. 2006). Asks embarrassing questions (Heylighen, n.d.b).

- Strong content focus and can ignore social context (Corten et al. 2006).Task-oriented to the neglect of office politics, dress, and grooming (Webbet al. 2016).

I think the task orientation is another place difficult people get upset with me for. When I'm focused, I'm focused and often I (possibly) mistakenly ask if I can have a few moments to wrap up what I'm doing. This used to happen with my father all the time and he would get pissed. It's amazing, he would come to me asking for my time and help and when I let him know, not this moment he would flip out and call me selfish even though he was the one imposing on my time to do something for him.

Here is the book: Extreme Intelligence, Development, Predicaments and Implications

She also writes about how people and she doesn't directly touch on parents so much, but attachment style says it all, and there is a tendency to subjugate and suppress strong-willed and independent children. That hit home too.

I'm getting to the last chapters of the book and look forward to seeing where it goes next.

Alo BTW - I wasn't looking for a book or claiming to be of extreme intelligence but I do know that I had some really strange test scores as a kid, not intelligence-wise but on the annual standardized tests. I was above average on everything, but not too much except the analytical and science subject sections. It was really strange how far above every other topic I scared to the point of hitting the ceiling which indicated scoring 5 grades ahead on the science assessment. It's a really imbalanced skillset and all my other assessments I take for work reflect similar personality and thinking styles. There is very little middle of the road traits that I possess. Of course, the other side is lower scores on interpersonal sensitivity and the like, so that ain't a good combination with hypersensitive narcissists.

I think this all of what I wrote and was asking about was coincidentally made pretty clear. This is not even taking into account seeing the toxic behavior of others.

I should come back and post something here about it maybe? It's a different take on where these family conflicts might come from for some of the people here.