This may help you.
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0786JC6VW
From what you would describe, I would say the the Xbox controller is much better for you. You may even like the elite as it has some customization options.
https://www.xbox.com/en-US/accessories/controllers/elite-wireless-controller-series-2
There are no "quality micro usb cables", it's a shitty standard designed by morons. I've been using a bluetooth dongle and only use usb for charging.
I'm using one similar to this:
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B009ZIILLI/
but if I was going for a new one, I'd go with just just for looks:
https://www.amazon.com/Wireless-Bluetooth-Adapter-Nintendo-Switch-Raspberry/dp/B0786JC6VW
https://www.amazon.com/Mayflash-Magic-NS-Wireless-Controller-Nintendo/dp/B079B5KHWQ
Here's example of the dongle I mentioned. It let you connect famous controller like DS4/XBox One to switch. These dongle do not let you communicate with PC directly. Well it is not really DIY but I figured it should be easier to find XInput/XBox signal reference than directly involve with Joy Con. So either reverse engineer the signal send to adapter or reverse engineer the adapter driver itself then connect to PC directly. (not even sure if the hardware let you do that lol)