I use the msr 1.6 litre pot and the stanley nesting set. I actually just use the stainless steel part to boil water.
Not the lightest options for sure, but I've had them for years and I don't see them breaking any time soon.
I also use a camp utensil set I got off Amazon. https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B079MGBRPN?pf_rd_r=VMBM722GCNWWKRMHQ3YQ&pf_rd_p=5ae2c7f8-e0c6-4f35-9071-dc3240e894a8&pd_rd_r=daabe3c3-56c1-4221-aa18-531db81501e1&pd_rd_w=Puc1c&pd_rd_wg=8K0Mp&ref_=pd_gw_unk
just saw your part about not wanting to go through amazon. sorry. I'm just sharing what I use. I share your hesitation to get stuff through amazon.