Philips hue has one that would work for you. Also, I know someone who has used these before and they worked well.

https://www.amazon.com/EVVR-Neutral-Required-Switches-Lightings/dp/B0B7237KWQ/ref=mp_s_a_1_17?crid=2SR8Y83IOHFOC&keywords=homekit+combination+switch&qid=1684032216&sprefix=homekit+combonation+switch%2Caps%2C88&sr=8-17

Is there no actual switch that is HomeKit compatible that would work?