Man this shouldn’t be harder than it is to find a good night vision camera fairly cheap. Here is what I ended up buying.
This is a really good camera for the price. It’s a no name but it works really well. It has a built in IR light but it ends up draining the battery pretty quick so I use an external light that I Velcro onto the camera. 2018 Wifi Full Spectrum... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B072JKWRTS?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
The lights I use are the Dual IR and Full spectrum lights on this page and are your best bet for lighting. The bigger ones take a 9 volt and the smaller ones take a cR2 but they are the longest lasting infrared lights I’ve found.