Was browsing around looking at ethernet options for esp32 on amazon and ran across this and thought you might find it interesting

https://www.amazon.com/whiteeeen-Development-Expansion-ESP-WROOM-32-ESP32-DevKitC/dp/B09VMXQTM8/ref=sr_1_8?crid=1LEKREBA50J1Q&keywords=esp32+ethernet&qid=1661844769&sprefix=esp32+ethernet%2Caps%2C109&sr=8-8

Search "esp32 breakout" on amazon and you might find a better option than has been mentioned that works for you