HakkoT18-BR02-T18Series is currently the one I’m using.

As for the board I let the port edge hang over the edge of the work bench. Heat board until I see the tin pads starting to give place port continue heat from the bottom (you will melt plastic if you aim hot air at the port directly). Place port using tweezers or pliers continue heating and gently press down on the port until u see it seat.

You should watch this video New Easy way to install HDMI port

Edit: linked wrong video updates link.