Quick update! I have not yet tried Wellbutrin, but...I did try this vibrator I found on Amazon that had a ton of reviews from women on medications that prevent them from achieving orgasm. HOLY. SHIT. It's a game changer and legit feels better than head. It made me come instantly. I still want to try Wellbutrin, but this is a good supplement in the meantime to get those good feelings back: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B071CPR2V4/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o01_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1
There are many good choices, and personal preferences vary a lot. I like:
Hitachi Magic Wand: great plug-in power, deep rumble, large ball that is comfortable and easy to place; but it's big, fairly noisy, and has a cord.
Vibratex Mystic Wand: like a small battery version of the Hitachi; more speeds, quieter, waterproof, but less powerful
Satisfyer Pro 2: air pulse, fast orgasms, but you have to get position just right. (Use lube!)
We mainly use the Hitachi during tantra sessions, mixed in with oral and clit massage when I'm up on our massage table. We use the Mystic during sex in other places (couch, bed, outdoors), because it's cordless. And the Satisfyer is great for solo quickies, but not as good for sex with a partner.
For a couple just starting out, I would recommend the Hitachi and the Satisfyer. One of the two (& hopefully both) will very likely work for you.
In many cases the problem women have with using a vibrator for the first time is that they apply it "cold" and expect it to do all the work. But that often doesn't succeed. Using a strong vibe on a cold clit can hurt, and even if it doesn't, you may need to hold the vibrator on your clit so long that it gets numb. So it really, really helps if you are highly aroused before you start using the vibe.
My best advice for a couple in your situation is to get a good, inexpensive massage table and learn to give & receive full-body sensual massages. A really good massage will let him get you well up on the arousal curve before trying oral and/or clit massage, and then he (or you) can finish by using the vibe to take you that last bit over the top.
Once you have more experience and can reliably have orgasms, it can be fun to switch it around. Start the same way with a good warmup, then use the vibrator to get you almost to the top, so he can get you the rest of the way with fingers, tongue, or PIV.
This post by /u/tantragirl describes what she and her bf (now husband) did when they found themselves in your situation. It has links to lots of additional resources:
Here's hoping you have as much success as they did!
Amazon! Here is the link: https://www.amazon.com/Satisfyer-Generation-Air-Pulse-Clitoris-Stimulator/dp/B071CPR2V4
I got it off Amazon it’s called the satisfyer pro 2
https://www.amazon.com/Satisfyer-Generation-Air-Pulse-Clitoris-Stimulator/dp/B071CPR2V4