I use these for my wife. They are pull up / pull down. I like them better than the tab sided ones because I find them easier to get them on and off her.

https://www.amazon.com/Incontinence-Underwear-Women-Super-Absorbency/dp/B07KS319LQ/ref=mp_s_a_1_1_sspa?crid=2DV2ANHE1N9P4&dchild=1&keywords=tena+adult+diapers&qid=1633149971&sprefix=tena+adult+&sr=8-1-spons&psc=1&spLa=ZW5jcnlwdGVkUXVhbGlmaWVyPUEzUEZYQjQ4OVhGOUNVJmVuY3J5cHRlZElkPUEwMTczMTcyM1ZFMlZOTUVGQzZLSiZlbmNyeXB0ZWRBZElkPUEwMDcwMzg1MU1DSUlQWVU4N0MzRCZ3aWRnZXROYW1lPXNwX3Bob25lX3NlYXJjaF9hdGYmYWN0aW9uPWNsaWNrUmVkaXJlY3QmZG9Ob3RMb2dDbGljaz10cnVl