I got this for Christmas and I've been using it for the past week staying at a friends house. I'm using an ENO double nest, and so far it's just a touch more cramped than the hooks I use embedded in my bedroom wall.
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Turtle dog DIY stand, I also have used this
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We have this at our house. We brought it a couple years ago. Breaks down pretty well and fit into the trunk of a Mazda3 easily. My advice would be to not buy a "compact" hammock stand just because it seems easier. We originally bought one that folds up into one piece. Sort of like one of those shitty camping chairs but a hammock. That thing was terrible and the fabric didn't breathe at all. Top 5 worst Bonnaroo purchases.
This is the one I had. It breaks down okay but I've never checked it. I only brought it the year I drove
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How tall are you, and how much room do you have? I'm 5'7", and I can be comfortable in a 10 foot hammock in one of those 9 foot long stands, but I'm a bit *more* comfortable in my 11 foot hammock, which doesn't work with those stands.
Do you have trees in your backyard so you can experiment with whether you enjoy the hammock before you spend a lot of money on a stand? Or maybe you could go on a camping trip? All the hammocks I'm recommending come with tree straps, so you could order the hammock first and give it a try outdoors before you spend any more money. Worst case scenario, even if you don't like sleeping in it overnight, you'd end up with a hammock for lounging around in 😀
If you're on the short side, and on a budget, a 9 foot long stand like this one ($75) will work. I've got one that I use when I travel. You'll probably want a shorter hammock with it, like this WINNER OUTFITTERS Double Camping Hammock ($29).
If you're taller and have room for a larger stand, I can recommend the Gold Armor Camping Hammock (currently $32) for indoor use (I used one for a year before my dog tore a big hole in it with his claws!) If you might want to go camping too, you could purchase the Ridge Outdoor Camping Hammock (currently $65) which has a mosquito net. It's very comfortable and is what I'm sleeping in now (though I zipped the net off for indoor use 😆)
If you have the room and the budget, a "turtledog" style stand with tripods (or... quadpods?) on each end gives a comfortable hang for a longer hammock with no need for external attachment points. They pack a lot smaller than the 9 foot steel stands, and you can also kind of "half pack" them by collapsing the tripods and leaning it against the wall when you're not using it. There are 2 commercial versions: the Eno Nomad ($250) and the Tato Gear stand ($350). If you're up for some DIY, Tato makes a DIY kit ($150) that has all the hinges and you just supply the poles. Or you can go whole hog and make your own (you'll have to make a free account to see the photos).
If you do end up sleeping full time in a hammock, unless you live somewhere very warm, or you tend to sleep very warm, you're going to want an underquilt. For indoor use and car camping in mild weather, the OneTigris Twilight Trekker ($65) would probably be fine. If you might want to go backpacking, you'll want a down underquilt, as they pack smaller and weigh a lot less for the same warmth. I love my HammockGear Economy Incubator ($140) -- I pair it with one of their Burrow top quilts and it's like sleeping in a snuggly warm cloud 😆
One of the nice things about sleeping in a hammock is that once you've got your hanging situation figured out (I use L Track screwed into my wall studs, but it sounds like that's not a possibility for you), the hammock is the cheap bit. You can experiment with different materials and add a structural ridgeline to your hammock to adjust things a bit, and if you spill a beverage all over yourself you can just throw the whole thing in the washing machine (try doing *that* with a mattress!!!).
Amazon has one for $46 that can collapse into a small portable tote, but Ive never used it, so I can't be sure it isn't crap. https://smile.amazon.com/dp/B00WFH3TIG/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_dp_T1_H.ytzbGE1FSTJ
I've seen a number of people hang using two crossed poles and a tie down, always looks like its about to fall, but it seems to work. This is a commercial version of that if you can get a stake in the ground where you are fishing. https://www.houzz.com/photos/36757477/Madera-Stand-contemporary-hammock-stands-and-accessories
I recently got this stand: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00WFH3TIG/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_7gkUxbWCYABW2
It sets up and breaks down easily, and feels pretty sturdy. You might want something more sturdy/permanent, but I intend to take mine places. I haven't gotten to use it much, so I can't speak to it's longevity; but as of now, I'd buy it again!
Edit: just noticed you also asked for hammock. Here's what I got: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00PB03YA2/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_QlkUxbV0XME35 Works really well with the stand. Looking forward to getting to use it more.
This is the stand I use. The issue is it's about 10ft long. I love it though. I use a nylon hammock in the summer with a sheet and a cotton in the winter with a comforter. Yup may look into a diy underquilt depending on your temps. I also sleep on my side and hammocks will accommodate but you will slowly shift and find your nesting spot.
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