Book list in no particular order with a link to Amazon.

The Developing Mind by Dan Siegel

The Science of Trust: Emotional Attunement for Couples by John Gottman

Emotional Neglect and the Adult in Therapy: Lifelong Consequences to a Lack of Early Attunement by Kathrin Stauffer

The Deepest Well: Healing the Long-Term Effects of Childhood Trauma and Adversity by Nadine Burke Harris

Accessing the Healing Power of the Vagus Nerve: Self-Help Exercises for Anxiety, Depression, Trauma and Autism by Stanley Rosenberg

Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents by Lindsay Gibson

The Pocket Guide to the Polyvagal Theory: The Transformative Power of Feeling Safe by Stephen Porges

Soul Friends: The Transforming Power of Deep Human Connection

Healing Developmental Trauma: How Early Trauma Affects Self-Regulation, Self-Image, and the Capacity for Relationship by Laurence Heller

Full Catastrophe Living (Revised Edition): Using the Wisdom of Your Body and Mind to Face Stress, Pain, and Illness by Jon Kabat-Zinn

In an Unspoken Voice: How the Body Releases Trauma and Restores Goodness by Peter Levine

What Happened to You by Bruce Perry and Oprah Winfrey

The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel Van Der Kolk

Attachment in Psychotherapy by David Wallin

No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model by Richard Schwartz

The Emotionally Absent Mother by Jasmin Lee Cori

Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving by Pete Walker

Waking the Tiger by Peter Levine

Non-Violent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg

Together by Vivek H. Murthy

The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog by Bruce Perry

My Grandmother's Hands: Racialized Trauma and the Pathway to Mending Our Hearts and Bodies by Resmaa Menakem

The Grief Recovery Handbook, 20th Anniversary Expanded Edition: The Action Program for Moving Beyond Death, Divorce, and Other Losses including Health, Career, and Faith by John James

Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication by Oren Jay Sofer

Rock the Boat: How to Use Conflict to Heal and Deepen Your Relationship by Resmaa Menakem

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Not a therapist, but my experience is very similar to yours. This book helped me a lot, and radically changed the way I thought about my condition, so much so that I was able to make some real progress in recovery.
https://www.amazon.com/Body-Keeps-Score-Healing-Trauma/dp/B08TX585RN