I’d recommend a simple DMX controller that has a mic like this:

CHAUVET DJ LED Lighting (Obey3) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B003MOO3YK/

To control some LED pars, like these:

ADJ Products LED Lighting (Mega Hex Par) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B076VXFSJF/

Then get some other sound active lights, leave them in sound-active mode, and just control their power with a strip:

American DJ 8 channel AC power strip with 15 amp breaker and 8 on/off toggle switches. 19 inch rack mountable https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0002GL50Q/