Thank you man, I read the book and it's amazing, I second your suggestion for anyone that will read this thread, The Charisma Myth really opened my eyes to the power of self-suggestion, visualization and affirmations, it makes a lot of sense when you think about it that visualization reinforces neural patterns related to the activity(or state of mind) that you are visualizing yourself into as showed in this study where they asked participants to visualize themselves contracting their finger and saw a real, tangible increment in their finger strength by 53% https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/14998709/ My take on it is that if you apply the same concept to visualizing, and especially FEELING in a certain way, you ll strengthen the areas of your brain associated with it and hence you'll feel that way more often and more easily To return the favor and suggest you a good read too, I found The Power of Your Subconscious Mind, very interesting and empowering, if you can get over the excessive reference to Christianity and Miracles and consider it an introduction into the working s of your subconscious nind https://www.amazon.com/Power-Your-Subconscious-Mind-ebook/dp/B00URU8BEU