Two stages for us. These are both non-affiliate links.

First, the EZ PZ spork:

https://ezpzfun.com/products/mini-utensils

It strikes a good balance in being sharp enough to actually impale things but dull enough it'd be really hard to hurt themselves with it. When you're ready to graduate, we like the Playtex metal forks:

https://www.walmart.ca/en/ip/playtex-baby-bpa-free-toddler-utensils/6000016936426

Other than their being pointlessly gendered, we've been happy with this as our daughter got more competent.